I am a pretty easy person with whom to get along…not much really makes me angry. Except for one thing: people who continually allow themselves to be disrespected and abused when they have the power to change things, but they don’t “to keep up appearances”. It is something I think of a lot, because I am constantly reminded of it. I find it hard to have respect for people like this, even if they are the nicest, most helpful people in the world. But often, the intention is good, but when it comes down to keeping a promise or following through with something, it doesn’t happen because this person must cater to the person who continually gives nothing but disrespect and abuse. The one being disrespected often puts his/her abuser’s needs above not only his/her own, but that of other people that really do matter and care about this person.
I would never allow myself to be treated this way. I sure as heck hope my daughter never allows herself to be treated this way. I have trouble even allowing my daughter to witness this particular relationship due to the example it is putting forth. I do not want her to think it is OK for a woman to have no mind or life of her own. And you can bet if a client comes to me and is allowing him/herself to be treated this way, I am going to bring it up, as uncomfortable as it may be. IT IS NOT OK!!!!
OK, I’m done…thanks for letting me get that off my chest! I think I’ll go run or something now…I feel the need to burn off the rest of the frustration I am feeling!!!
Agreed! BUT when you find yourself in a situation that is abusive or has an addict component so many things kick in–like I can fix it; it really isn’t this bad, etc. It is amazing how the mind tricks you in these situations. Look at any Alanon book and you will see that this behavior, unfortunatly is textbook! It takes much support and determination to break this pattern! PS I am enjoying your blog!